Why your BJJ training partners are your best friends
5 reasons your BJJ training partners are your best friends.
Common interests
Some people have fishing buddies while others have friends who love the same bands.
You and your BJJ buddies have jiu-jitsu. You will bond over trying out new techniques on each other, helping each other prepare for competitions, and sharing a niche interest that only you and they truly understand.
Trust
Each class or roll, you are basically trusting your well-being and ability to provide for your family with your training partner.
While you won’t be friends with everybody, chances are you will form a trusting bond with a group of training partners who you can depend on to show up to class, train safely, and help you get better at the gentle art.
Training is a bonding experience
Brazilian jiu-jitsu isn’t easy. The warm ups can be brutal and round after round of training can leave your body hurting and gasping for air.
Suffering and growing together is a bonding experience, though. That is why law school study groups, military training classes, and pledge classes in sororities and fraternities become life long friends.
Your best BJJ friends will be out there sweating, grinding, and heaving with you for a number of years and you can’t help but build a fondness and respect for your brothers and sisters on the mats.
You see each other in vulnerable moments
Friendships show their true colors in difficult moments.
In BJJ, there are many moments of vulnerability including: getting injured, losing a match in a tournament, getting frustrated, and physically and mentally breaking during a match or training.
At these points, your ego is stripped and everybody sees you for who you are and still accepts you.
In most cases, you will be picked up and supported by your training partners and friends.
Jerks are filtered most of the time
Eddie Bravo has said that “BJJ is a filter for douche bags.” The nature and structure of BJJ has a way of filtering out most of the cocky, arrogant, or difficult people.
Some people can’t accept instruction, take care of their training partners, or deal with constantly losing during the early stages of training.
There is a food chain on the mats where if you are a white belt bully, an upper belt will put you in your place. If you walk in thinking you are a natural at every sport or used to be the alpha tough guy, you likely won’t be able to handle the 130 lbs computer programmer choking you out in 30 seconds.
Thus, mostly cool and chill people are left on the mats for the long haul.
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